Let me give you a little background. I am going to call her, DD for short. My DD is involved in many activities both in the home, and out of the home. She volunteers, she helps with classes and takes classes, she baby sits, she has her own business, and she is involved in youth. Just recently, about three months ago, she joined Rainbow. For those that don't know, Rainbow is an organization through the Masonic Lodge that girls learn leadership, presentation, and organization skills. It was a good fit for DD.
Like most organizations Rainbow has rules/guidelines. DD and myself have been learning those guidelines. One of the guidelines happens to be on attire, and recently we had an experience with such an issue. Now remember when I told you DD was very smart. Well, this is when it gets a little difficult. At a recent event she choice to wear jeans, which in her defense she thought would be perfectly fine. I suggested that she wear her brown slacks. Remember the issue of intelligence..... DD response was, "NO mom, I know what I am doing, and I don't need to wear my slacks. I can wear my jeans." OK.
Again, I ummm..... I am not going to lie here. I STRONGLY, in my motherly way, suggested the slacks. I even went so far as to get the slacks out of her room and bring them with us in the car. She did not budge, and I kind of died on the mountain of slacks.... There really was no compromise between the two of us.
Fast forward to the end, I dropped DD off at the event and left to pick up my oldest son. Came back about hour and half later to pick her up after the concert was over. When DD got in the car I asked her how it went. DD explained that it was a "casual" Rainbow event, which meant no jeans......
She looked pretty beat up over the situation. One of the mothers who had been there gave her a disapproving look, which for DD was VERY hard to swallow. Remember she is my intellegent child. OH, and did I also mention she is my over achiever? With that said DD did not have as much fun as she could of.
It was a day of lessons for both of us. She learned that even though she thinks she may know everything it may be a good thing to listen to mom sometimes. And mom learned that I REALLY need to look at my attitude. Just because someone has a "I know" attitutde does not mean I have to have the same one.
It was definitely a day of humility for both.