I know I have some of those habits that annoy my husband, just as he has habits that annoy me. I have a tendacy to leave dishes in the sink for longer then I should. He has a habit of leaving his shoes and socks out by the coach. There are alot of them. And there are many ways to deal with those annoying habits.
Myself, for the longest time I would grumble. It did not matter how many times I would find something laying around the house I would start to grumble. Now understand I was being a "good" wife because I was not nagging at him, or really complaining to the kids. What I was doing was grumbling in my head. I would complain to myself, and rant on and on and on. Playing the negative, complaining record of what "awful" thing my husband had done. But was the habit awful, or the grumbling awful?
God calls us to be joyful in all we do. Serve the LORD with gladness; Come before Him with
joyful singing. Psalm 100:2 And as our husband's helpmate, we do to just that. Serve him with gladness, with a joyful song in our hearts. I can't do that if I am grumbling.
If I am allowing the record of complaining to run through my head how can I allow a joyful noise to come out of my actions. The thoughts I have are affecting the actions and choices I make. If I am thinking, "How could he just leave the socks out? What does he think I sit around waiting for him?". Those thoughts are NOT going to help. And yes, actually I should be joyfully willing to serve my husband. He is my husband, a gift God has given me.
Do all things without grumbling or questioning, Philippians 2:14
It is so hard some days not to complain and grumble. There are times when I can't even see past the negativity, and caos that is in my life. And there are definately times when I don't even have the strength to lift up my eyes, let alone the prayers needed, to you. Please, God, forgive me.
Please, Lord help me to have a thankful heart. Help me to sing joyful noise not only out of my mouth but out of my heart. Allow me to look upon my husband with joy, remembering he is a gift not to be taken for granted. He is to be thanked, and respected. My husband deserves a wife with a heart of joy, a song on her lips, and a sparkle in her eye. Help me Jesus to have that joyful heart, the song on my lips, and the spark in my eye.
In Jesus name,